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How To Become More Social

Updated: May 2, 2019

1) Start small.

Don't expect too much from yourself in the beginning. Recognising that you would like to change is the first step to change. To begin your journey to becoming more social, you need to start small, start by saying 'hello' to passing strangers, or to a colleague that walks past you. Even though this step may seem small, getting into the routine of saying 'hello' to strangers, rather than ignore them, can eventually become a great habit. All habits are just repeated moves.

2) Challenge yourself daily.

Make sure to challenge yourself daily to make progress. This daily challenge doesn't have to be huge, you just have to come out of your comfort zone a little bit. Try saying hello to a stranger, or give someone a compliment. Another thing you could do is practice having better and more detailed conversations with people you already know. You won't be as nervous around them as you already know them. Practice speaking about different topics, and see where it takes you. Let your mind speak, don't silence your thoughts.

3) Ask questions.

If you are struggling to think of something to a stranger or someone you know, ask questions. Find something that they are wearing, and ask them where they bought it. Also, if they are eating a certain type of food, you can ask where they bought it from. Asking questions can show that you are interested in that person, and want to know more about them. Showing you are interested in someone can make them feel good about themselves, after all, everyone likes talking about themselves!

4) Don't get overwhelmed by people who talk a lot.

We have all been there, we think we're doing great then BOOM, we compare ourselves to someone else who we 'believe' is better than us. However, don't get overwhelmed because someone appears to be talking a lot. Just because someone has a lot to say, it doesn't mean they are interesting people, it just means they say what's on their mind at the time, whether want to hear it or not. Try it sometime, say what's on your mind, and see where it takes you! Explore every avenue

5) Don't be afraid to say your opinion.

Of course, everyone has a right to their own opinions, and feel free to express yours, (as long as it's not offensive) you never know who may share the same opinion as you! This can create easy conversation as you are knowledgeable on a certain topic. A healthy debate is always fun and interesting too! This world would be boring if everyone had the same opinions, so don't be afraid to express yours, no matter how weird you think it is. Weirdness is fun and interesting, so don't hide that. Sometimes, when people have social anxiety, they tend to worry about what they say, and control what they say. Switch off this auto censorship because it will hold you back. Other people tend to be less judgmental than you think because they are usually concentrating on themselves. Just enjoy being with people, and sharing your opinions and facts, you never know where the conversation will go.

6) Speak loud and clear.

We all know someone who talks so quietly, you can barely hear a word they are saying. Don't be that person. Make sure your voice is heard. You don't have to shout, but make sure your voice is loud enough and clear enough. You don't want people to dismiss your opinion because they can't hear you. Also, you will appear more confident if you speak loud and clear. People will tend to take you more seriously and respect you more too.

7) Speak to people with similar interests.

We have all been there when we try and force a conversation and it ends up going nowhere, however, speaking to people with similar interests makes it easier to make conversation as you already have experience and knowledge on the topic already. For example, do you like guitar? Maybe check out open mic night and meet like minded people. It's easier to expand your social circle with people who share your passion.