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How to Love Yourself

Updated: Aug 25, 2019

Loving yourself is an important part of enjoying life to the fullest. Loving yourself increases your confidence, making people respect you more and want to listen to you.

Nobody is perfect and we all make mistakes sometimes, so don't beat yourself up about those. You are allowed to make mistakes, after all, you're only human.

You are unique, beautiful and very strong!

Here are some tips to help you love yourself more

Overcome negative beliefs

I bet you have heard it a million times that positivity improves your life. Well the same goes for your inner voice. If you constantly tell yourself over and over again that you are ugly, you are eventually going to believe it. This is why you need to let go of the negative thoughts that are consuming your brain. The truth is, you aren't ugly or whatever negative thoughts you tell yourself. Every single person on this planet is beautiful and unique in their own way, and you're no different. So start embracing the positives and weed out the negatives.

Remind yourself of your qualities

Too often your brain thinks of the negatives qualities you believe you have. Remind yourself of your positive qualities and what people love about you. If you are struggling with that, ask a family member, partner or close friend to tell you what they love about you. This will help remind you that you have amazing qualities. It's easy to focus on the negatives, so focus on the positives instead. You will feel better for it.

Avoid Perfectionism

One of the main reasons people struggle to be happy and love themselves is because they are aiming for impossible perfection. You are human at the end of the day and you are bound to make mistakes. This doesn't mean you are a bad person or you are falling below standard, it just means that you are learning. Even the best athletes in the world have failed more times than they have succeeded. Don't be too hard on yourself. You can work towards goals as that is a healthy thing to do for growth. But don't expect perfection, just work as hard as you can and achieve as much as you can. Appreciate how hard you have worked and how hard you are working.

Don't compare yourself or your journey to anyone else

Everyone has qualities that another person may not be as strong in. For example, one person may be an amazing story teller and the other person might be a funny person. It doesn't mean you are below average or aren't good enough. It just means that someone has better skills in one area, but may also mean that you have better skills in another area.

Comparing yourself and your journey to someone elses is a very slippery slope. Everyone has something that someone else doesn't have, and that's ok. Everyone is at different life stages which is also ok, It is the same for physical appearance, you are beautiful exactly the way you are. No one is like you and no one will ever be like you. You are you, so why be ashamed when you're so unique. Love yourself inside and out, your mind will thank you for it.

Visit a therapist

If all else fails, it might be time to visit a therapist. You weren't born not loving yourself, the world around you and your experiences have conditioned you to think this way, and that damage can be undone. Speaking to a therapist can work wonders and help you overcome the negative view you have yourself. It's hard to love others and the world if you don't love yourself, so seek the help you deserve and learn to self love again. You are worth it!