© 2019 by Michelle Reed. 

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Reasons You Aren't Successful

Most people want success, but the majority of people won't work hard enough to get it. My aim is not to de-motivate you or make you feel bad. My aim is to make you realise what it takes to be a success. I understand that sometimes it's not what you want to hear, but the 100% raw truth is the best way forward to help you achieve. Everyone makes mistakes, as long as you learn from them then you are progressing.

Your dreams are out there waiting, you just have to go and get them.


One of the most common reasons that people aren't as successful as they could be is because they only kinda want success. You kinda want to be successful, you kinda want to work but you would much prefer to watch your favourite programme instead. To achieve your goals, you must put in the work. I understand that a work life balance is important and you should place it as a high priority, but you have to make sure you are working towards your goals too. If you aren't working towards your goals, you're goals won't come to you. Small progress is still progress.

'Dreams don't work unless you do'.

You play the victim

I understand that people are raised in circumstances that can occasionally be negative. However, you are responsible for the opportunities you give yourself. Blaming other people when you are responsible for your actions is unproductive. I know that there are negative people who can bring you down, but that is their problem, not yours. Leave them behind and reach for your dreams.

You don't finish what you start

You start tasks and don't finish them either because you get bored or unmotivated. The thing is, you will never feel 100% motivated all the time. You have to find that motivation within. You have to dig deep and remind yourself of the reasons you are doing what you are doing. Think of the life you want. A lot of depression can be routed down to people not having goals and aims in life, which gives their life purpose, especially in men.

You fail once and give up

I get it that failure isn't a nice thing. Occasionally, it can make you doubt yourself too. But the truth is, no one who is successful has avoided failure. Failure is inevitable. Failure is just proof you are trying. You have to keep going. The reason may successful people are where they are today is because the didn't stop when they failed, and many of them failed hundreds of times before them become successful.You won't succeed if you give up too easily. As the same goes, Rome wasn't built overnight.

'When you fail, you must try, try, and try again'.

You're aiming for the wrong goal

You have to find what you love and work towards your passion. Sometimes, people see other people striving and think they want to do the same thing in the same field. But the truth is, one thing isn't for everyone. You have to find what you are good at and what makes you happy. The reason for this is because there will be days you get unmotivated and don't feel like working. But when you are passionate about what you do, you will carry on because you love it. You won't put in the effort it requires to succeed if you aren't enjoying it. All jobs have some negative sides, no job is perfect, however you have to enjoy at least 70% of it to succeed and be passionate about what you do.

You're thinking negatively

To stay focused and to stay on target, you have to think positive. You won't get far if your mind is telling you negative things and putting you off. You have to think positively to give yourself the encouragement and motivation you need. You won't put your best effort in if you keep telling yourself you're no good. The truth is, everyone is good at something, and everyone has the same amount of time to succeed. So stay focused, and think positively. A few motivation quotes can go along way. Same goes along with motivational videos and inspirational people.

You aren't putting yourself out there

Have you ever heard the saying 'it's not what you know, it's who you know?'. This saying comes true in the world of success. You can't be successful on your own. You need other people to help you along and open you up to opportunities. This is why networking is important. For example, if you wanted to become a singer, you need a record label, you need a publicist, and a manager. This is why building relationships is important as they are the ones who can excel you and help you become successful. Regardless of what career you want to pursue, everyone needs team of support. It's incredibly difficult to make it on your own. I know you are strong and independent, and that's good. But you can't succeed on your own. Every girl boss needs support.

You're too scared

I have been here before and it's not a good place to be. Have you ever heard the saying 'if you're not embarrassed by your first product, you started too late'. This comes true with people who are perfectionists. If you don't put anything out there, you aren't going to succeed. You need to start somewhere and learn as much as you can everyday then build from there. Don't wait around. You will end up procrastinating. Your content or your work doesn't have to be perfect to start. You just need to start. You will never know what you can achieve if you do nothing. Get out there and see what happens.

In summary: your achievements are in exact proportion to the effort you put in.

Start now.