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Signs You're in the Wrong Relationship

Relationships are a wonderful thing. There can be so much joy and experience to have with someone you consider your best friend. But what if you are starting to question whether this relationship is for you?

The truth is, when we like someone and have an emotional connection with them, it can be hard to see the bad side of that person unless you are looking at it from an outside perspective. For example, if your best friend was in a relationship like the one you are in, would you support it? Or would you start it’s not right? Sometimes, the best way to look at a situation is if it were someone else, as you will start to think more logically then. When you like someone, it’s hard to see anything but the good.

Don’t worry if you are feeling indecisive about this. It’s very normal.

It all comes down to intuition and whether you are truly happy. For example, when you think of this person does it make you smile? Are there more positives than negatives in the relationship? Are the negatives something you can deal with, work on or look past?

I’ve heard it plenty of times on how married couples knew they have found the correct one, and they all said the same thing. ‘I just knew’. It’s a gut feeling. You must listen to your gut and decide whether this is right for you. It’s so much better to be single and find someone who doesn’t make you second guess everything, than be with someone who continuously makes you feel anxious. Life is too short and you deserve to be treated like the special person you are. If this person doesn't make you smile and support you in life, it may be time to reconsider.

Another factor can depend on if you can figure out what is going wrong in the relationship. have you had a conversation about things? Do you think it’s their fault, your fault or a bit of both? At the end of the day, no relationship is perfect, and there is bound to be some problems, that’s normal, but no relationship works without both parties trying. If you are still having doubts, here are some of the signs this relationship isn’t right for you;

You think about what it would be like single, and you like the way it looks

You constantly think about wanting to be single, and think about what it would be like away from your partner.

This is a bad sign because it means you aren’t fully committed to your partner. If you were fully committed to them, then the thought of being single wouldn’t be a common consideration in your head. Your gut is speaking, you need to listen to it.

You only think bad thinks when you think of your partner

When you think of your partner, what kind of memories go through your head? Are they mainly good, mainly bad? If there are some bad things, and they aren’t that big, for example, if they leave their clothes out, or are a little bit messy. Then maybe you can overlook these things as no one is perfect. However, if the bad things are overpowering the good things, it may be time to call it quits and wait for what you deserve. Sometimes, couples can go through a rough spell, which is fine and you can hang on for hope if it’s a small rough patch that you are both working on, But if one party refuses to work, or the bad spell has been going on for a long time, it may not be right for you. You deserve to be respected and treated right, if your partner isn't doing this, it may be time to reconsider things.

You are staying together in hope they will change

Waiting for a partner to change can end up being disappointing. Your partner may never change, and may not even want to. For a person to change, they have to want that change and work hard on doing so. There is no point in waiting for someone to change into what you want when you can find someone who is already there without the need to force it. This will most likely end in continuous disappointment.

If everything they do is annoying you, it may be time to leave

If everything they do, even if it is small, seems to annoy you, it may be time to leave. If you are having a stressful week, then you may just be taking it out on your partner and you need to try not to do that and work on dealing with your stress better. However, if you are struggling to tolerate being around your partner but you tolerate everyone else, it may be time to leave.

Your arguments are toxic and hurtful

Arguments happen in every relationship, it’s normal when you have two individually minded people coming together, that you both will have some different opinions. But when the arguments are toxic and hurtful, this is not normal and shouldn’t be tolerated. You shouldn’t feel threatened or useless after every argument with your partner. There may be underlying issues that are only surfacing during arguments. If your partner does hurt you and doesn't feel apologetic or sympathetic over what they have done, then they never will be and they aren't right for you.

You know it’s wrong

I always say you should go by what you feel in your gut, as this is usually right. If you feel like something isn’t right, chances are, it isn’t. When you are with the right person, you just know. You don't have to try ridiculously hard to keep it going. You can be yourself, won’t get judged, and you feel at home. With the wrong person, it can be quite the opposite. You should feel comfortable with your partner.

If you are having doubts about your relationship, it's perfectly normal. But at the end of the day, life is too short to feel anything but loved. Continue to work on yourself and continue to wait for what you deserve. Wait for someone who treats you like the special person you are.

Do you have any signs that you look for? Let me know in the comments below.