© 2019 by Michelle Reed. 

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Why It's Important To Always Be Yourself

I have come to realise in the past year the importance of being yourself. In every aspect of your life this is important. Whether it be with friends, with your partner or with strangers.

Always be yourself.

I have friends who I grew apart from in the past couple of years, not because they are bad people, but because we outgrew each other. They wanted to party every weekend, where as I saw more to life than partying. Don't get me wrong, I do love the occasional night out and party. But I didn't t to do that every weekend anymore. I come to realise that there is so much more to life than just partying. I'm not saying those people are bad people, we have just grown apart.

Additionally, I also had a friendship group who grew apart because people started to settle down and have children, which again is very understandable. But it happens, in life sometimes you drift apart and sometimes you may love people, but you have to be selfish and realise what you want in life. And if that means losing people, then so be it. they say that you are the combination of your 5 closest people, so it's best to make sure those people are good ones. I could have easily kept going to clubs and not enjoyed it, but I wouldn't be staying true to myself. I could feel myself when I was going to the clubs in the final years not enjoying it, and feeling like I need something more and different.

I spent a lot of time trying to please other people, and it just made me miserable. It was exhausting. A lot of your younger years is about figuring about who you want to be, and sometimes this can take a long time. So enjoy figuring it out and be a little selfish sometimes. You have the right to enjoy your life.

I have associated myself with that of a free spirit. This is because I tend to believe what I believe, regardless of whether 'society' says it's OK. Don't get me wrong, it's nothing that would harm others, but I have my own views and way of life, and that's how I enjoy my life, regardless of what's considered the 'norm'.

From a young age, children are taught that if you don't 'fit in' with the popular and cool kids then you aren't 'normal'. But this is long from the truth, being different or having something unique to others makes you who you are. And you should be proud of that. You should be proud that you are unique and like no one else in the world. Embrace it, don't hide it.

This goes for every part of your life. You must stay true to who you are, always. You can't go through life trying to please everyone because you will just be exhausted, and you won't be thinking of your own needs. There is no point trying to please everyone anyway, because you could be the finest rose in the world, but that person may like daisies.

When you are true to yourself, you will be much happier. You will feel free and effortless. You won't have to keep 'trying' to force friendships or acquaintances. it will happen naturally and the right people will come to you. Now, I'm not saying you have to be a douche to everyone and be inconsiderate, you should still be polite and think of others as well as yourself.

But what I am saying is make sure you are staying true to who you are. As long as you aren't hurting anyone else, it's OK. It's the best feeling in the world to be loved for exactly who you are, when you aren't being yourself, you are loved for what you aren't and what you pretend to be. There is no point in being a second rate version of someone else, when you can be a first class version of yourself.

'Be who you are and say what you feel, because those who mind don't matter, and those who matter don't mind'.

A lot of people are afraid to be true to their selves because of other's opinions or what others think. Don't worry about that because people who love you for you, will stick around. If a person or people have a problem with how you live then they aren't your people.

A lot of people act like someone they aren't just to impress people. This will soon tire them out as they will have to upkeep this personality. If you are happy with who you are, embrace it.

Another area in life it affects is job interviews. They do care about the knowledge you have about the job and how much you care, but I have seen it time and time again where the person with the best personality gets hired over someone who's very experienced. This is because that person was bubbly and funny. They showed their true personality and it won over the interviewers.

The whole point of life is to achieve what you can and experience as much as you can. There is no point living for others, you will just make yourself miserable. If your mum really wants you to be a dancer, but you hate dancing, quit. You can't live for someone else. Sure, your mum might not like it for a little while, but she will come around and understand, she will probably respect you more for going for what you want to go for.

'Imperfection is beauty, madness is genius and it's better to be absolutely ridiculous than absolutely boring.'