© 2019 by Michelle Reed. 

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You can't please everyone, and that's OK

Living your best life should be one of the most important things you should focus on in your existence on Earth. Making sure you are living your life to the fullest, and enjoying your time is key. One of the most important ingredients to living a good life is having good relationships with people. This includes people you are currently close to and new people. But there is one thing that people don't take into consideration when meeting new people, is that you can't please everyone.

Depending on the way you go about meeting new people, some people like to put theirselves out there and talk to new people, which is a very good and brave thing to do. This means you are putting yourself out there to meet new people, and opening yourself up to new possibilities. But unfortunately, no matter how good you are of a person, there will always be someone who is not interested in you, or is that closed minded that they shut you off.

When this happens, don't let it get to you. Rejection is a part of life and it shouldn't be took too seriously. If someone doesn't like you for you, then that's their own problem, not yours. If you have been as polite as you can be and opened up to someone, and they still don't want to know you, don't take it personally. They may have issues of their own that make them struggle to talk to new people or they may just be closed minded. This isn't your problem, and it isn't your fault.

'You could be the best daisy in the bunch, and there will always be someone that prefers rosies.'

The right people will stay by your side no matter what. You shouldn't change who you are for others. It's better to be loved for who you are than to be loved for who you are not.

If you are a people pleaser like I used to be, you may struggle if someone rejects you and doesn't warm to you. But don't be disheartened, you will never get everyone on this Earth to like you, and that's OK. If you spend your life trying to make everyone like you, you will be exhausted, and you will be pushing your own feelings aside to accommodate everyone elses.

'If someone doesn't like you, that's their problem, not yours'.

At the end of the day, we are all different, we all have lives that are different, so you aren't going to see eye to eye with everyone you meet. We all have common qualities about us, but we also have many differences. We all have a different ways of doing things, and some people become critical of others when they do things differently. But at the same time, if everyone was the same, this world would be very boring.

It's not worth trying to please everyone and sacrificing your own sanity for it.

As long as you are living the way you want to live without hurting others, that's all that matters. Don't worry if anyone is critical of you. Just be you, and keep being you. The right people will come along and stay in your life, they are your people.

If there is someone who is making fun of you for being a little different to them, the main reason people do it is to make themselves feel better. Their egos get a small high when they are putting down others. So it says more about them than it does about you. If someone is being mean to you, either don't acknowledge it, or stand your ground.

The most important thing is to not let people influence your decisions. Live your life the way you want to live. Don't let closed minded people bring you down, just because they are struggling to achieve anything and don't have the guts to go for what they want to go for. Set your goals high and keep them there.

People will always have opinions, you have opinions and so does everyone else. But don't let that affect how you live. Be open to new ideas but don't let it change who you really are.

Some people will never be pleased anyway no matter what you do for them. These people have usually been badly hurt and are taking their high expectations out on you. Don't let this get you down, as it is more about them than it is about you. Remind yourself of your qualities and decide whether these people should be a part of your life if you can help it.

At the of the day, people will always talk no matter what you do.

Another reason why people can be closed minded is because people can be afraid of what they don't understand and you can't expect everyone to understand something. They will never be in your shoes and experience what you are experiencing, so they may not understand you, and that's OK.

Don't lose your identity to try and please others. Be polite, but be true to who you really are.